The Joy of Parenting. How do I obtain my child’s cooperation?

What does cooperation mean in the family context? Cooperating means working together; Children can be responsible for some of their own problems;You and your child can talk together and solve problems; Family meetings help families enjoy each other and solve problems together. How can I help my child cooperate? Cooperation means working together. It does […]

The Joy of Parenting. How can I talk so my child will listen?

father talking to his son

A parent who wants to be heard must be prepared to listen before confronting. Parents are inclined to focus only on the unacceptable behaviour of children and then repremand, using you- messages.  We need to know the difference between a you-message and an I-message. You-messages put children down, using blaming, nagging, accusing, threatening, comparing, inducing […]

The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s inadequacy displaying behaviour

We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]

The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s revenge-seeking misbehaviour

We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]

The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s power seeking misbehaviour.

We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]

The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s attention.

We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]

The Joy of Parenting. Why do children misbehave

Children are born with different unique temperaments. Some are calm , others active, some loners and others want people around them; A child inherits certain traits from parents, something that cannot be changed; The environment in which the child grows up also has an influence on the development; The first child growing up with a […]

The Joy of Parenting. Does my parenting style work?

As parents we need to know and understand, not only our child, but also ourselves. An important starting point is to know what your typical parenting style is. Do you give orders? Do you give in? Do you give your child choices? Giving Orders There is a difference between a request and an order. Orders […]

The Joy of Parenting. How do I bond with my child

It is said the bonding process starts when the baby is developing in the womb.  How we think about the baby, talk to the baby,  and even sing to the baby.  The more relaxed and peaceful the parents are the more peaceful the baby will be. Healthy bonding and attachment is developed when the child […]

The Joy of Parenting. Cutting The Apron Strings

At this stage the child is starting to separate self from the parents.  Friends become very important, and in the eyes of the child, the parents are ignorant. Adolescence (12 to 18 years) The peer group is very important and also has a strong influence on the child’s life; This is the stage that a […]