The temper tantrum battle with my toddler !!!
WHAT IS A TEMPER TANTRUM? It is defined as “an angry outburst by someone who have lost their temper in reaction to something they did not want to happen.” Temper tantrums are common occurrence in the age group two- to four-year-olds, but older children and adults who did not develop emotional self-control also have temper […]
My child is telling lies…..Why?????
As a parent we need to take a step back. Just think about yourself. You will realize that children and adults lie for similar reasons. These are: To get out of trouble; For personal gain; To impress someone; To protect someone; To be polite; Has low self-esteem and seeks acceptance; Feeling stressed; Trying to avoid […]
Why kids skip school – Playing truant from school?
This means a child is missing school on a regular basis for no good reason. Many pupils bunk a class or two during their school years. Often is the start of the road to dropping out of school. It has far reached consequences for children, the adults they will become, and the Society in which […]
The Joy of Parenting. It is a joy to be part of a family if the following is happening:
We have mutual respect and loyalty; We spend time together- play and work together; We share problems, expectations & fears; We listen attentively when someone in our family speaks; We agree and know who makes the decisions about what issues in the family; We set clear boundaries for minor children; We set boundaries on activities […]
The Joy of Parenting. Is there any discipline that makes sense?
A parent who wants to be heard must be prepared to listen before confronting. What is discipline? The goal of discipline is to teach your child self-discipline. It is to guide your child to become more responsible. When your child misbehaves, you use discipline to help him/her choose a better way to belong. Discipline is […]
The Joy of Parenting. How can I encourage my child ?
A parent who wants to be heard must be prepared to listen before confronting. Encouragement is a skill to help children grow in self-esteem. The question is how do we encourage??? It is actually easier than we think. 1. Just love and accept your child. Your child will not always do as well and […]
The Joy of Parenting. How do I obtain my child’s cooperation?
What does cooperation mean in the family context? Cooperating means working together; Children can be responsible for some of their own problems;You and your child can talk together and solve problems; Family meetings help families enjoy each other and solve problems together. How can I help my child cooperate? Cooperation means working together. It does […]
The Joy of Parenting. How can I talk so my child will listen?
A parent who wants to be heard must be prepared to listen before confronting. Parents are inclined to focus only on the unacceptable behaviour of children and then repremand, using you- messages. We need to know the difference between a you-message and an I-message. You-messages put children down, using blaming, nagging, accusing, threatening, comparing, inducing […]
The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s inadequacy displaying behaviour
We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]
The Joy of Parenting. Managing my child’s revenge-seeking misbehaviour
We said children misbehave because they want attention, because they want to control the parent, they want to get back at the parent with revenge, or just give up and say “I cannot “. Children don’t know their misbehaviour has a goal. They may also use the same misbehaviour to seek different goals. A parent’s […]